Welcome to Beyond Self-Defense
This is a website is about self-defense and the martial arts.
In today’s violent world, it is life-saving to know self-protection. Women looking for a self-defense class are often overwhelmed with the options available to them. Who do you believe? My intent is to clear up some of the confusion.
Martial artists of all reaches will enjoy the history and insightful blogs I have planned for this site. A work in progress, you are invited to come back frequently to watch it grow.
Hello, my name is Sensei Carol. I have studied the martial arts for 30+ years. My roots come from Hawaii, Okinawa, and China, thanks to the long lineage of my two instructors. My school is Mu Shin Dojo. My Sensei and I are both certified instructors in the Okinawan Kubodo League and Japanese Karate Associations.
Beyond Self-Defense is dedicated to the men and women who selflessly serve our country, on our shores and overseas, who graciously and bravely put themselves daily in harm’s way to protect and keep our country free.
Violence is all around us, and it is important to know how to stay safe. Whether we realize it or not, we put ourselves in unsafe scenarios by testing the waters with unsavory people and by not setting limits. Then we realize too late the big mistake after being beaten and dumped – or worse – by that mean-hearted, conniving ***!
Why do some people get the good ones and others get the left-overs? Why do people stay in abusive relationships?
I’ve been pondering questions like these for some time now. As a self-defense instructor, questions like these were at the forefront of my brain. I saw women leave one bad man and hook up with another. Why did they keep going back to, or seeking out, an abuser? I couldn’t figure it out.
Until one day, I did. That was when I realized I was teaching women to be dangerous to themselves. There is nothing riskier than misplaced confidence in a violent encounter. So I quit teaching six-week self-defense classes and started to backtrack to see what was missing. A whole lot, I discovered.
If you want to succeed at a test, study in the room you will be taking the test. If you want to make a great speech, practice on that stage. Being comfortable in your surroundings increases your recall. How can you be comfortable in an angry confrontation or when someone is attacking you? How can you recall anything when you are scared stiff?
Wouldn’t it be better to avoid that attack altogether?
Physical self-defense comprises about 5% of the picture. It is the mental aspects of preservation that keep us alive.
Self-defense cannot be learned overnight, or even in a short 3-hour or 6-week class. Reflexes come from practice, and to effectively defend yourself, you must have the reflexes to act – to be comfortable with yourself even when scared stiff.
Obviously, it is not possible to teach techniques in a blog, but it is possible to teach people how to be aware of their surroundings, and how to spot and avoid an evil person. These are not techniques just for women, but men can also benefit from awareness and calmness of mind.
I chose the name Beyond Self-Defense because that is exactly where we are going. We will discuss various ways to stay safe in this crazy, mixed-up world by using strategy, intelligence, and intuition. Tips and tricks that you can use in any situation – the boardroom, the family room, and confronting the masked stranger.
Through my blogs, we will discuss how to pick healthy relationships, how to be alert for signs of danger, both on the street and in the home. I will also show you some interesting tools you can use to defend yourself.
Check back often to see what’s new, and feel free to leave a comment. I would love to hear from you.